“When confronted with any form of danger, every living creature defends itself. This is a hardwired response built into every physical being to guarantee its survival. So it’s okay to acknowledge to yourself that you have a defense mechanism.
This doesn’t make you less spiritual or less angelic in any way. Again, think of warrior angels such as Archangel Michael with his sword and his armor, signifying that even the most peaceful angels have sometimes go to battle. And there`s feminine equivalent to Archangel Michael`s archetype within every woman. Research stories of strong warrior women, like Joan of Arc of the suffragettes.
When someone says or does something that stirs a reaction in you, it’s very important to acknowledge your thoughts and feelings to yourself. Perhaps you notice that your stomach muscles tighten; you perspire; or you become flush with anger, rage, or even embarrassment.
If at all possible, walk away from the situation, even if you have to excuse yourself to go to the restroom. This moment away helps calm down your physiological reactions. Otherwise, you may act impulsively and say things that you later regret.
While you`re alone, have an honest conversation with yourself. Begin by noticing how you feel physically. Is your heart racing, is your breathing shallow, or are your thoughts explosive? Any of these reactions can show that the other person has triggered anxiety within you.
This anxiety response is also called fight of flight. It’s an instinctual response to danger. When there’s danger, your instincts spur you into either fighting or running away (that is, flight).
While you`re by yourself and meditating, it’s a good idea to pray for guidance, support, and peace. You want to be honest with yourself and with others, but you don’t want to blow situations out of proportion. Nor do you want to engender hard feelings.”
Source – Assertiveness for Earth Angels – How to be loving instead of “to nice” – Doreen Virtue
